I had a hard time deciding whether to go ahead with my Facebook campaign for a widow.
The idea was to help widows share their grief with the wider world.
But the process proved more complicated than I expected.
First, I asked the widow of a man I know to help.
This was not a typical situation.
The widower had just been killed in a car crash.
He had a wife and four children, including a three-year-old son.
He was the youngest child in his family.
He is also the youngest surviving member of the family.
My first reaction was, “I don’t want to spend a lot of time with him, so let’s leave him alone.”
But the next few weeks turned into a long and frustrating process.
I had to learn the basics of grief-sharing, such as how to share information and what to do in case of family discord.
Then, I found an interesting woman on Facebook, who had also been the mother of her son.
She was able to share with me some information about the accident, but she could not share any of her husband’s personal information, such a birth date or the death toll.
The problem was, the information shared was not personal information.
In fact, it was private information that was being shared with the world.
I asked her to let me know how she was feeling, and then we went on to talk about the other widows I had helped in my campaign.
She shared that she had just returned from visiting her husband in hospital and that she was not feeling well.
I was struck by how calm she seemed, even though she was visibly emotional.
The next step was to ask her to do something for the other grieving widows.
I made her an offer: if she would share the information she had shared with me with one of the other bereaved widows who had just died, I would donate a few dollars.
This would be a way of helping to make up for the loss of her life.
I contacted her in person, and she agreed.
I made an appointment at her home, where I offered to send her the money if she shared the information with one other widower who was also grieving.
I also asked her for the names of the widows she had helped, and her responses were helpful.
I then sent the information on to the other surviving widows, and the process of sharing was complete.
This is a post that I hope you will read as well.
If you are a widowed person in the UK and you need help, please contact the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90 or text 234111 to talk to a counsellor.
I would be delighted to assist you in any way possible.
I hope you enjoyed this article and will consider sharing it with others in your community.
I am also open to speaking to you about the issues you face in your family, as well as the issues facing other families in your area.